Pregnancy and childbirth can be one of the most challenging and transformative (if not the most) experiences in a woman’s life. Some meet the journey with excitement and enthusiasm while others are terrified. Regardless of your birth choices, how you make decisions and the path you take can leave a lasting imprint on the way you cope as a mother, the way you relate to your partner and the way you navigate challenges in your life. Because I know how important this is, one of the primary things I focus on as a doula is building my clients’ confidence in themselves, in their bodies and in the decisions they make. So I want to share seven keys to help you overcome your barriers to birthing confidence.
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I could call myself a baby planner, I guess, but my vision for Mumatopia is so much bigger than that. I don’t want to just offer a service which is a quick fix to busy mothers, I want to offer a service which makes a difference to their physical and emotional wellbeing in the long-term. As someone who suffered from postnatal depression and anxiety following childbirth, I know how important it is to have a support network around you during this time.
What I find is often missing in modern maternity care is the idea of listening to women. In a hospital setting, car providers have pages of lists reminding them of what information they need about a woman to adequately care for her. Missing from this list of reminders, in the majority of cases, is “Have you listened to the woman about her needs and desires?” Why is such an essential element of maternity care so overlooked?
Within a couple of days, the aftershocks struck. A friend came by and changed his nappy. I just let her take over but something inside of me wanted to say “he’s mine, I think. Maybe I should be doing that.” But I couldn’t say it because, at that point, I felt like I had to ask everyone’s permission to do anything for him. The day after L was born, the obstetrician walked in, patted me on the leg and said “not going to have a big family then are we!” I was devastated. Childhood memories of tearing about the house with my three siblings were something I wanted for my own brood and I definitely wanted a brood, at least four! I suddenly felt robbed of that. It was as if she was saying birth was no good for me and that I should quit while I was ahead.
In recent years, research has found that a distressing childbirth experience can trigger Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). It is estimated between 1.5 to 6 percent of childbearing women would meet the criteria for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, following a traumatic childbirth experience (Beck, 2004b). Cheryl Tatano Beck is one of the leaders in this field of research and below is a review of her key findings about birth trauma and PTSD.
The UK health visiting service offered weekly non-directive counselling sessions with a midwife for eight weeks after diagnosis of PND. So, for eight weeks, Kate, broad smile on face, enthusiastically had planted herself on my floor while I talked about Liam’s birth and about the way things were unfolding for me on any particular week. There was no judgement. There was no hint from her that I was an incompetent mother. During those eight weeks I felt free to tell her anything and everything.
The first time I went to Birthtalk, I was pregnant with my second baby, and I was feeling broken. Up until that point, I had thought that the trauma of my first birth was my fault and that I was defective. I felt alone and scared and didn’t think anyone else would understand what I… [Continue Reading]
Professional birth support (doula) in the Ipswich, West and South West Brisbane areas. What is a doula? Doula is Greek for “woman’s servant.” And, quite literally, the doula’s role is to serve you by providing emotional, informational and physical support to assist you in achieving your best birth. What does a doula do? Studies show… [Continue Reading]